Comparing myself to others is a constant battle. I’m always looking at other women’s blogs and websites and trying to see how they “do it.” How do they seem to have their whole life together and put out beautiful content online? I know no one is a perfect, but just putting out your life for everyone to see so that it seems perfect is intimidating.
This is called imposter syndrome — the feeling that you are not enough or don’t deserve to be in the position you are, whether it’s professionally or personally.
For the past week or so, I’ve read up on how to brand myself online, how to stay motivated while blogging, how to better myself and my career, etc. And I’ve tried to do it all in one week, so that the next week, everything will be perfect. Yeah, not the best way to work.
Every day we as women are bombarded with this idea that we have to be perfect and we have to have a perfect life and we have to be happy and smiling all the time. We look to strangers to tell us how to decorate our homes, how to raise our kids, how to please our spouses sexually. I’m only 28, and I’m already sick of being bombarded with so much of this content that’s constantly in my face competing for my attention.
So how do you put yourself out there without comparing yourself as a blogger?
I don’t have a magical list of answers, but I’ll tell you what I do.
First, I remember why I’m doing what I’m doing.
Whatever it is that you are doing — whether it’s photography, yoga, blogging, whatever — remember your reasoning for it. Are you posting to help others or to motivate yourself? Hold on to your why. Write it down and make sure you can see it every day.
Secondly, understand that the bloggers you follow have been blogging for years.
Those popular lifestyle bloggers with thousands of followers started off with an idea just like you, and they stuck to it.
Chances are you aren’t going to gain an online presence with that many followers in just a few weeks. You can use these bloggers as inspiration, but when you focus too heavily on trying to copy them, so to speak, you aren’t being you; you’re trying to be someone else.
Remember that no website is made in a day. It takes hard work, persistence, and patience. You have to be willing to navigate the ups and downs of content creation, and you also have to adapt to the current trends pertaining to your niche. Believe me, trends change over time, and you don’t want to have old blog posts with incorrect information.
Third, tell yourself that you can do it!
Just because you think someone else is doing it better doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t even try. You are unique. No one else has your voice. And there’s no one else in the world like you.
That might sound like some millennial crap, but it’s actually true. Even if you are an identical twin, your twin still isn’t you. Only you can be you.
So if you find yourself comparing your blog to someone else’s, snap out of it. You might even need to unfollow social media accounts that trigger those insecure feelings. And remember that as women, it’s better for us to stick together than to compete with each other. I encourage you to find some other bloggers who are new and just getting on their feet. Form a group. Help each other. That’s how you find your tribe.
I hope this helps you along your journey. Thoughts, comments? Don’t be shy. I’d love to hear from you!
Have a great week and remember to just do you, boo!