Does it seem like your dreams are far-reaching? Are you constantly doubting yourself and your abilities?
I’ve been there. I think everyone has been there.
Throughout my life, I’ve held myself back often. I can list so many times: I didn’t try out for volleyball in high school; I didn’t go to college out of state; I didn’t take the time in college to really find a major I truly loved. The list goes on and on.
Are you like me, often finding you are holding yourself back?
Ask yourself these questions: What are your dreams? What are your goals? When you picture your future, what do you see? How will you get there?
These can be daunting questions, but you don’t have to figure it all out right now.
But I KNOW you have a dream, probably one that scares you.
I’ll fill you in on a secret: I have a dream, too.
My dream is that I want to write a novel, and I want it to be published and on the shelves at Barnes & Noble. I’ve had this dream since I was in middle school. Is it a reach? I honestly don’t think so. I think I could do it. But WHEN?
At the end of the day, doubting myself was holding me back from so many opportunities.
What makes writing hard is that it’s so easy to get distracted. I’ll set reminders for myself to write every day. But then I get caught up watching a show on Netflix, or blogging, or playing games on the computer. I’ll even get caught up setting healthy habits for myself, like exercising. And by the time the day is over, I think about writing and feel guilty for having not written anything.
I guess, I keep thinking a great idea will hit me and I’ll write a novel and it will be a breeze. But it doesn’t work that way.
Can you relate?
In college, I took two writing classes, one was fiction and one was non-fiction. Both classes were workshop-style classes, so we had to write stories and have our works peer-reviewed. It was so fun and inspiring. I hate that I didn’t stay in touch with some of my classmates. But what got me writing great stories was the fact that I had a deadline.
I think that’s the key for my dream. I need to set a deadline for myself. Not one that’s too out of reach like “Write a novel in a month.” But maybe more along the lines of “Write a 50-page short story in four weeks.”
If you have a dream, I hope you will stay encouraged. I don’t have a magic list of steps for you to take to accomplish your dream. But I know you know what you need to do. You know what steps to take, and you don’t need someone to tell you what to do.
Just don’t hold yourself back. Stop doubting yourself. Believe in yourself, your skills, and your dream.
Believing in yourself is much harder than it sounds, I know. This article from Entrepreneur.com suggests Counting Your Wins with a gratitude journal, and talking to yourself Like a Champion.
Those are pretty good tips. I’m going to write those down myself.
Need some more inspiration? Here’s a great article on Shine about planning to succeed.
Have a dream you would like to share? Comment below! Let’s discuss the steps we need to take to accomplishing our goals!