This year, rather than focusing on new year resolutions, I’m focusing on self-love. I’ve realized a lot recently just how insecure I am. I can easily get caught up in bashing myself and bringing negative energy towards myself. It’s so embedded in me that I don’t even realize it’s happening. I am naturally an introvert, but too often I use that as an excuse to not do things I would like to do. For example, I hate going anywhere by myself if I don’t have to. I’ll get nervous doing something I’ve never done before or going somewhere I’ve never gone before.
Can you relate?
What causes this nervousness and anxiety is simply insecurity. Of course, everyone can have different levels of anxiety, and no one is exactly the same. But for me, the reason I get nervous is because I don’t want to make a fool of myself, or I don’t want to look stupid to someone else. You have to just ignore those feelings. No one is looking at you, and if they are, they won’t be thinking about you the next day.
Here’s a quote that I found so helpful to me:
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.” -Lucille Ball
This is such a true statement.
This year is such a big year for me. I’m so excited to be getting married and starting this amazing journey with my fiance. And I’ve discovered that in order to love him, I have to love myself first. Loving myself is the key. Because if I don’t love myself, I’m going to look for validation from him on EVERYTHING. Seeking validation from someone else, even if that person loves you, can be so destructive to a relationship.
If you are trying to love yourself, here are a few self-love tips I’ve started doing recently that I wanted to share with you all.
- Compliment yourself. Every day when you look in the mirror, tell yourself what you like about yourself. You are your biggest advocate. Instead of bashing your body or your face or your hair, remind yourself of those features you love about yourself. Write it down! Keep it with you throughout the day as a reminder.
- Give yourself alone time. It can be so hard to make time for yourself throughout the week. Schedule some alone time on your phone. Make an alert for it, and block out time to spend that’s just for you.
- Do one thing this week that benefits your future. This could be anything from updating your resume, saving some money, or investing in something, or even working on that one dream that you have for your life. My dream in life is to write a novel and have it published. This is a dream I’ve had for so long. And I hate to say it, but I haven’t done anything to accomplish this dream. I haven’t written poetry, short stories, or anything recently.
Try these self-love tips next week and see how you feel at the end of the week. Please feel free to share your self-love journey in the comments below! I’d love to hear about it!