Your Followers Don’t Validate You

I’ve been stuck in a rut the past few weeks. At first, it was because I’ve been so busy with wedding plans and moving into our house. But gradually, I began to compare my blog and my social media following to other more popular bloggers.

And it made me ask myself, “What’s the point?” Why did I decide to start a blog?

Don’t get me wrong. I love blogging. It gives me something to do that I feel is productive and worthwhile.

My main trouble is Instagram. Since I created my blog’s IG profile last December, I’ve gotten to around 490 followers. It’s been that way for a few months now. For some reason, I can’t hit the 500 mark. And of course numbers don’t define us, but if they weren’t important, then no one would focus on them, right? So, I signed up for a free Instagram webinar, and the main idea behind it was that your Instagram and blog have to become a business and you have to know why you’re posting. Although I’ve heard this message before, I never really took it to heart.

But here’s the thing: Right now, I don’t want my blog to be a business.

I don’t want to sell anything. But it seems like the only way to become popular is to sell products, become brand ambassadors, and self-promote everything.

The blogger hosting the webinar mentioned that your IG profile sells how your followers’ lives would look like if they bought your products, read your blog, etc. I don’t know why, but it just sort of rubbed me the wrong way.

The aim for my blog and my social media presence has always been to simply share my life with others, offer encouragement and advice, and simply connect with people.

I don’t want my IG profile to appear to be something when my life looks nothing like that.

If you are in the same boat as me, or have similar thoughts, let’s both remember that comparison is the thief of joy.

If your blog brings you joy, keep at it. That’s more than a good enough reason to blog. You don’t need 1,000 followers to validate you because once you get the first thousand, you’ll probably want to get another thousand and never really feel satisfied. You’ll just want more and more. Having a large social media following isn’t the point. The point is to spread positivity in the world. And you can do that whether you have a million followers or a hundred.

I know this is a short little post today. I’ll be writing smaller ones for at least another month while I adjust to married life. 20 days left until the wedding! I couldn’t be more excited.

As always, stay encouraged, friend.